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When it’s getting hard to stop. Thoughtful, confidential support.

Therapy for problematic porn use · Clinical psychologist, Auckland & online

If pornography use is becoming hard to control, more frequent than you want, secretive, or at odds with your values, therapy can help you understand the pattern, reduce shame, and regain a greater sense of choice and control.

A private, non-judgemental space to understand the pattern and change it.

Milford Sound / Piopiotahi — 26/11/23

Therapy with clarity. Not shame.

Many people find themselves using pornography in ways that stop feeling like a choice. For some, it’s the amount of time it takes up. For others, it’s secrecy, escalation, its impact on intimacy or relationships, difficulty cutting back, or simply the feeling that this is no longer how they want to live.

Therapy focuses on understanding the pattern, what keeps it going, and what helps you move forward differently. You don’t need to have it all figured out before starting.

  1. Understand

    Make sense of triggers, patterns and function.

    We look at when it happens, what comes before it, and what it does for you, whether that’s relief from stress, boredom, loneliness or low mood.

  2. Work through

    Reduce shame, secrecy and compulsive loops.

    Shame tends to keep the cycle going. We look at it openly and without judgement, and find ways to break the loop in the moments that matter.

  3. Move forward

    Build greater choice, control and alignment with your values.

    We get clear on what you want your life and relationships to look like, and make a practical plan you can start on from today.

Start with a conversation. Private. Practical. Psychological.

If you know you’d like an appointment, you can book directly. If you’re unsure whether this is the right fit, you’re welcome to have a chat with me first — request one using the form and I’ll call you back.

Email aaron@cbt.co.nz Mount Eden, Auckland · online across Aotearoa New Zealand

In crisis? I provide crisis support — please book the next available appointment. For help outside usual work hours, see where to get urgent help.

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